I was in a sexless relationship and began to feel ugly. I thought there was something unappealing about me. I'm not a nympho by any stretch, but a normal, healthy woman with a normal appetite for sex and desire to share that with my partner.
It could be hogwash. While it certainly FEELS like being physically hurt, the emotionally mature person would very likely just go out and build/rebuild a life - without that person who hurts him or her.